Reflections by topic
The same themes keep coming up in the room. These are the ones I write about most — pick a topic and read the pieces that sit together.
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Pieces about connection, distance, repair and the quiet drift that happens between two people who still care about each other. Written between sessions, mostly about the things couples find hard to say out loud.
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How early attachment shapes the way we love now — the vigilance, the reassurance seeking, the labels we borrow, and the slow work of finding security inside ourselves rather than in someone else's response.
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Why the same argument, the same partner and the same ending keep finding us — and what changes when we understand the need sitting underneath the behaviour.
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The 3am thinking, the what-ifs, and the difference between not knowing and actual danger. Small notes on living with an anxious mind without letting it run the day.
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The question I ask nearly every client, and the small, unglamorous ways we keep ourselves well — rest, boundaries, and giving your own wellbeing a place in the diary.
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Friendships that fade without explanation, relationships that run their course, and what we do with the questions no one is going to answer for us.
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