A thought from the therapy room
Attachment
If we're going to use attachment labels, I would probably describe myself as having some anxious attachment tendencies. It was only when I found myself opening up to love again that I noticed how vulnerable it can feel to care deeply about another person. But over time, I've come to realise that no relationship can permanently provide what we haven't yet learned to offer ourselves.
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One of the hardest lessons I've had to learn is that sometimes people leave our lives without giving us the explanation we hoped for. Friendships that faded, friendships that ended abruptly, and the difficult truth that nobody is obligated to remain in our lives simply because we wish they would.
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Over the past few years, I've noticed attachment styles appearing everywhere. People come into counselling saying things like "I'm anxiously attached" or "My ex was avoidant." But at what point does a helpful insight become a label that limits us?
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Most of us don't consciously choose the patterns we repeat in relationships. Often, they developed for a reason—at some point, they helped us feel safe, connected, or protected. But what happens when the pattern starts holding us back?
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